Header-lansing_1.jpg
 
Home  Advice Goddess
 
 
Wednesday, July 16,2014

Advice Goddess

Tales From The Cryptic And You May Now Miss The Bride

by Amy Alkon
advicegoddess_headshot.jpgWednesday, July 16 — Q: My boyfriend of two years got an early birthday present from his sister and her husband: a really expensive, second-row ticket for a major sporting event next year. The trouble is, it falls on my 30th birthday (a Saturday). He knows I usually don’t care about my birthday, and I confess that I also judge people who care about theirs. Still, I can't help but feel that my 30th is a bit of a milestone, and I wanted to spend my birthday weekend together somewhere with my boyfriend. I understand that he doesn't want to seem ungrateful for his sister's gift, and he's courteously told me about this conflict well in advance. Do I need to just get over myself? Or should I raise my concerns?
Read more
Wednesday, July 9,2014

Advice Goddess

Pierre Pressure And You May Now Miss The Bride

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, July 9 — Q: I’m an 18-year-old woman, recently asked out by a handsome, charming 34-year-old guy from France. He took me out to a nice restaurant, and everything was wonderful until he admitted that he has a girlfriend, though he explained that they always fight and break up. He said he isn’t ready to leave or cheat on her, but he is very attracted to me and wants to keep seeing me platonically to see where our “relationship” goes.
Read more
Wednesday, July 2,2014

Advice Goddess

Is This Deceit Taken? And Selfish Allergy

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, July 2 — Q: I’m a 54-year-old single man. I’ve discovered a troubling and apparently rampant trend among people around my age doing online dating -- women not being honest about their age. I think the women doing this include the woman I started seeing, whom I otherwise like a lot. She listed her age as 55 but recently got flustered recalling the year she graduated from high school. I got suspicious and looked her up on people finder sites, which list her age as 57. Should I tell her, “Hey, I’ve been doing a little detective work, and your numbers don't add up”?
Read more
Wednesday, June 25,2014

Advice Goddess

Destitution Wedding And Ed Driftwood

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, June 25 — Q: A friend asked me to be a groomsman in his wedding. It’s being held hours away, and the only hotel is pricey. With tux rental, attending will cost me over $500. I’ll also have to miss work. (I’m a waiter.) Is it okay to decline a wedding invitation because it’s too expensive to attend?
Read more
Wednesday, June 18,2014

Advice Goddess

Carbon Dating And Hooked On A Felon

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, June 18 — Q: I am a single 58-year-old woman with a one-year subscription to eHarmony. In the six months I've been on, only two men have contacted me. Of the dozen men I've reached out to, only one responded, and nothing came of it. I’m stumped as to why I’m getting such a sparse response.
Read more
Wednesday, June 11,2014

Advice Goddess

Bridle Party And June Wetting

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, June 11 — Q: I’m going to a friend's bachelor party in Vegas, which includes a strip club visit. My girlfriend said I have to sit that out. She believes going could lead me to cheat on her. I assured her that I have no intention of cheating — ever — and strippers have no interest in me anyway. Well, she’s adamant. I caved, agreeing to skip the strip club, but my friends’ teasing will be merciless. What if I just go and fib to my girlfriend to keep everyone happy?
Read more
Wednesday, June 4,2014

Advice Goddess

All Is Not Flossed And Out Of Leftover Field

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, June 4 — Q: I've gone out several times with a girl I really like, but her breath bothers me enough that I don't want to kiss her until it improves. (It smells like pepper and socks.) She doesn't smoke, eat stinky foods, or have an odd diet (beyond not eating red meat), so I’m not sure where this is coming from. I think her feelings might be hurt if I were to say something. What’s the best approach?
Read more
Wednesday, May 28,2014

Advice Goddess

Are We Having Fund Yet? And Jerk Stoppage

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, May 28 — Q: I’m a single mother with a 12-year-old son. Four years ago, when my boyfriend fell in love with me, he would buy me clothes and jewelry. He also promised to build a house for my son and me to live in. (We can’t live with him, because he repairs motorcycles from home and it’s loud day and night.)
Read more
Wednesday, May 21,2014

Advice Goddess

Que Syrah Syrah And Junior High And Mighty

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, May 14 — Q: I've been dating a fun, very attractive woman for about a month, and things have been going great. However, on our last date, we were out at dinner, and the female server accidentally spilled an entire glass of red wine on her dress. Though the server seemed mo...
Read more
Wednesday, May 14,2014

Advice Goddess

The Scorn Identity And May I Have This Glance?

by Amy Alkon
Wednesday, May 14 — Q: There’s this girl in my social circle I’d wanted to ask out for a while. Two months ago, I finally got up the nerve, but she politely declined, saying she wasn't “ready to date yet” after her last relationship. Since then, she’s started dating some other guy, and their pictures are all over Facebook. I unfollowed her from my News Feed, but I still see her with this guy in friends’ photos. Would it be completely petty to unfriend her? I feel like that would make me look even more jilted and bitter. And I still have to see her at parties and stuff.
Read more
 
 
 
 
 
Search Archive - Articles and News
Search Archive:
 
 

© 2014 City Pulse

City Pulse. 2001 E. Michigan Ave. Lansing, MI 48912.
Phone: (517)371-5600. Fax: (517) 999-6066.
E-mail: publisher@lansingcitypulse.com

 
Close