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Wednesday, April 1,2015

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Flee Circus

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 1 — Q: My mom left when I was young, and my former husband left me, too. Maybe because of this, I’ve noticed that I’m quick to assume that any man I’m seeing is ditching me. In the early stages of dating, if there’s a lag in calling or texting me back, I’ll lash out — block the guy on Facebook and delete him from my phone — only to feel stupid when I learn that his phone battery died or he was already asleep. As a relationship progresses, I still perceive relatively innocuous things as signs it’s over, and I keep testing a guy’s limits with demands and drama, pushing him to (finally) bail. How do I stop doing this? It’s totally unconscious in the moment.
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Wednesday, March 25,2015

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Wane Of Terror And Baby Got Backpack

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 25 — Q: I’ve been seeing this guy long distance. I haven’t really been feeling it and kind of let it drop off, thinking he’d get the hint. He keeps texting and calling. I keep telling him I’m just really busy. The truth is I’ve met somebody else. Do I have to tell him?
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Wednesday, March 18,2015

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Eyes That Light Up A Womb

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11 — Q: I’m a 35-year-old guy who’s doing online dating and who’s against having kids for moral reasons. Don’t get me wrong; I love kids. I just don’t think we need any more people on this crowded, violent planet. I’m wondering whether I should make the “no kids” thing clear in my profile. I know this can be a major deal-breaker for many women.
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Wednesday, March 11,2015

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The Sociopath Of Least Resistance and Dear In The Headlights

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11 — Q: My girlfriend has been hurt, cheated on, and even ripped off in past relationships, and I’m paying the price. If I don’t text back immediately, she is convinced I’m dumping her and flips out. If I’m busy, she thinks I’m with another girl or abandoning her. When I do something sweet, she thinks I’m trying to play her. All I want is to have a nice relationship with her. Am I fighting a losing battle, or can a little good from a caring, ethical guy allow a woman to let go of a lot of bad?
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Wednesday, March 4,2015

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The Taming Of The Spew and Wait Management

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 4 — Q: This guy I’m dating usually texts back when I text him. But sometimes, like last night, he doesn’t write back. And I’m just texting stuff like “How was your night?” — not “OMG, I miss you.” His not responding feels so disrespectful. I want to read him the riot act.
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Wednesday, February 25,2015

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Hope Fiend and Boys Will Be Decoys

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 25 — Q: I met this man a few years ago, and it was like a thunderbolt struck us -- the stuff movies are made of. He told me that his female roommate was just a friend. We went on a few dates before I realized she was actually his girlfriend. He promised that they were going to break up, so I hung around for a bit, but of course it never happened. Last year, I ran into him, and he said he was no longer with that woman and wanted to date me. I turned him down flat because I figured that if he was going to lie and cheat on her, then he would do the same to me. I’m kicking myself now because I have never met anyone like him. Is it really “once a cheater, always a cheater,” or could it be different for us? I have to put this to bed in my mind because I can't stop thinking I missed out on “the one.”
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Wednesday, February 18,2015

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The Wicked Witch Of The Westin And Edgar Allan Repo

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 18 — Q: There's a girl who works at the hotel where my co-workers and I go for drinks. She’s hot and smart and fun, and I really like her and want to ask her out. The problem is that when she laughs, she cackles in this really annoying way. I'm wondering whether, if we started dating and hit it off, I could subtly hint to her that she should change her weird, witchy laugh. Because, honestly, she’s perfect otherwise.
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Wednesday, February 11,2015

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Beak Experience And Dr. Jekyll And Mr. Hyde The Salami

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 11 — Q: I recently started dating this new girl. I asked her whether her lips and boobs are real (and it turns out they are). However, I did call her out on having a nose job. She admitted it but seemed kind of upset. It’s the truth. And she’s beautiful, however she got that way. What’s the problem?
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Wednesday, February 4,2015

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Stay-At-Home Martyr And Between The Spreadsheets

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 04 — Q: I just moved in with the love of my life. Her former boyfriend from years ago lives in her downstairs “granny unit.” My girlfriend recently revealed that along with financially subsidizing him, she’s still doing his laundry because “it's just easier.” He is 50 and previously earned a lot of money repairing computers and being a handyman, but he is not “into” working. My girlfriend is a therapist and sees a therapist, who has advised a proper separation. Amazingly, my girlfriend would rather she and I move out than insist he leave (though the home and loan are hers!). I’m worried that this will be one long, frustrating ride.
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Wednesday, January 28,2015

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Rant’s Tomb And Merchant Of Vroom

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 28 — Q: I’m a woman in my early 20s. I do fine getting dates, but only first dates. And no, I’m not having sex with guys on the first date, but I still never hear from them again. I ran into one of these guys at a party and begged him to tell me what had gone wrong. He said, “You’re kind of intense.” I asked him to explain, and he said, “You do a lot of talking.” I do talk a lot, but I’m informed and opinionated. Do I really have to be some mute little woman to get second dates?
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